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  • Why the Hope?

    The defining moment in my life that shifted the way I was thinking...and brought me to ubuntu.

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    Great question. Tough to answer.

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    September 13, 2013


    I was recently in a class-like setting for a program I'm taking. There are ten people in this program and we all come from different walks of life. We are asked to face things about ourselves that may be tough to look at. Mistakes we have made. Patterns of behaviour that we have had. We talk about goals and decision making and getting to a higher place within ourselves.

    So on our first day I walk in and see many young people there, a couple older ones, and one or two my age. There's guys and girls, many ethnicities, and a facilitator who is semi-retired and has a wonderful soul. He's now near and dear to my heart.

    As we begin the discussions, we share details of our lives that may not be oh so comfortable to share. And, as always, there is one person in the group that tends to stick out. He's not sure why he is there. He explains that he's never made any mistakes and takes no accountability whatsoever for past actions. Instead, he wants to argue and ridicule, certain that he doesn't belong.

    It makes the group uncomfortable and what could be a really strong, positive discussion is slightly off-put by the attitude of just one.

    So I realize at this point that I have a few options. I came to the class to learn. I came to enhance my life, take a look at decisions I've made and take greater steps towards my own goals. I don't want it to be clouded by this guy - how could he ruin it with his silly jokes!

    Then I think, I feel kind of sorry for him. He seems to really not understand the point of the group or the idea that if things happen to us, we can either be victims or we can be heroes that learn from mistakes and thrive triumphantly in the face of adversity.

    Part of me wants to reach out to our teacher who is dealing with his bad attitude in a light-hearted manner. I want to hug him and say thanks for dealing with this jackass.

    But finally, I settled on this. What is inside of that guy that is inside of me? Why do I want his behaviour to change? We cannot change others, but we can change what is in us that reflects and projects onto others.

    So I begin to realize that maybe I'm a bit hostile to past mistakes. Although I've come to this class with an open heart, a thirst for growth, and a giant feeling of accountability, have I really dealt with some of the mistakes I might have made in my short life? And he's a very intelligent man who is proud of the good things he has accomplished, in a way I admire. Have I also really given myself credit for the good things I have done as well or do I downplay them instead?

    When I began to look at him as part of me, my feelings toward the hostile situation changed. It's almost like I took the sensitivity out of the equation. Any frustrations or anger or embarrassment I had dissipated.  Instead I felt free.

    Free to examine my own issues rather than focus on what's going on outside of me. "For whatever is going on outside of you, is going on inside of you." (I don't know who said that, but it felt quoteworthy.)

    The people we meet are mirrors, reflecting back what's happening internally. I don't believe that "everything happens for a reason" as much as I believe that we see how things happen from how we are. Our own perspective leads us to interpret events in meaningful ways. It feels like it happened for a reason if you can make one for it. That's learning. That's growth. And that's wonderful.

    It's deep, I know. But it makes a world of difference when dealing with certain situations in life. I've dated men who I have felt are immature or sensitive or too this or too that. And all of a sudden, this shift occurs when you realize that those are traits that are reflecting back from you. It's what you see in yourself that you see in others. I've also dated men or had girlfriends that I'm wowed by: that are intelligent and witty and confident. That is also strong traits of myself coming out in the people I have and love in my life.

    All of a sudden, I realize that if I can strive to literally be the best me (so cliche) then I will see all of that best in others. And when I don't see the best in someone, I can take note that those traits are within me as well. Rather than being angry with them, I can fuel my personal journey.

    It brings me back to the concept of ubuntu (my favourite African concept again): "I am who I am because of who we all are."

    Reminder: life is a mirror. See the best traits in others and also see the worst. You can see what is going on inside of you in them. And remember that you can only change you. But in doing so - others may just take a note and change too.

    And be kind. Always be kind.

    So much love!



    April 03, 2012

    Either we have hope within us or we don’t.
    Hope is a dimension of the soul,
    And it is not particularly dependent on some observation of the world.
    Hope is an orientation of the spirit,
    An orientation of the heart.
    It transcends the world that is immediately experienced 
    And is anchored somewhere beyond the horizons.

    Hope
    In this deep and powerful sense
    Is not the same as joy that things are going well
    Or willingness to invest in enterprises that are obviously headed for early success,
    But rather
    An ability to work for something
    Because it is good,
    Not just because it stands a chance to succeed.

    Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism.
    It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, 
    But the certainty that something makes sense
    Regardless of how it turns out.

    It is hope above all, which gives us the strength to love and continually try new things.

    ~ Vaclav Havel, former president of Czechoslovakia

    April 21, 2011

    Hope is what led a band of colonists to rise up against an empire; what led the greatest of generations to free a continent and heal a nation; what led young women and young men to sit at lunch counters and brave fire hoses and march through Selma and Montgomery for freedom's cause. Hope is what led me here today -- with a father from Kenya, a mother from Kansas; and a story that could only happen in the United States of America. Hope is the bedrock of this nation; the belief that our destiny will not be written for us, but by us; by all those men and women who are not content to settle for the world as it is; who have courage to remake the world as it should be. [January 3, 2008]
    - Barack Obama

    April 20, 2011

    Sustainability isn't about the quick fix or the cheap solution. Generally it means making a commitment and trying, as best we can, to honor it. In any worthwhile enterprise, from protecting the environment to preserving a relationship, we are going to encounter difficulties. The good life is not a problem-free life. In point of fact, the process of overcoming adversity often produces some of the most rewarding experiences we will ever have. Human beings need to be challenged to 'test their mettle,' as it were. Throwing in the towel at the first sign of trouble or small inkling of distress may be the easy thing to do, but it doesn't help our self-concept. Most of life's troubles can be overcome if we are willing to work through them with patience.

    - Michael A. Schuler

    September 21, 2010

    "The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are." -J.P. Morgan

    August 31, 2010

    Truth be told, when a dream comes true, 9 out of 10 dreamers say that it was easier than they thought, happened faster than they expected, and was better than they first imagined it would be - causing those in the unseen to wonder without end, why they didn't dream bigger?

    May 18, 2010


    She writes,

    "If you have ever doubted the power of one, its’ time to reconsider. One cannot only make a difference, it can make thee difference.
    Consider Kathy, a past audience member of mine who told me that when she was a young child she played piano. One day at a reception after a piano recital, she was pouring tea for a gentleman who said to her, “I hope you pour tea better than you play piano.”
    Young and impressionable, Kathy was devastated. She took this information to heart and never played in public again. After our talk about limiting beliefs, old beliefs that we still hold onto, ones that don't define who we are now, she decided to let this one hurtful statement go and finally played in public five decades later.
    One of anything, has the potential to make a huge impact-good or bad.
    Think about some ‘ones’ in your world, for example: one person who caused you to feel 'not good enough,' one person who made a positive difference in your life, one idea you acted on that started a huge shift your life or one fear you conquered.
    Here are some 'ideas of one' that, if implemented, could significantly increase your quality of life.
    • Take one minute per hour to close your eyes refocus and reenergize your self
    • Use 1% of your day for your own personal growth, that’s about 14 minutes
    • Every month, write a thank you note to one person who has helped you on your journey of life
    • Pull one tip out of every magazine/journal you read
    • Pick one course/activity and try it before your next birthday
    • Ask one new colleague to share your break with you
    • Give one chocolate bar to the gas jockey
    • Use one commercial to do an exercise.
    • Let one old, limiting belief go.
    • Go one day without looking in the mirror
    • Plan one weekend this year to go away with a friend/loved one, just for FUN!
    In this world there is no shortage of ideas, but what seems to happen is that when we are overwhelmed with information, we freeze and don’t do anything!
    Just pick ONE little, itty-bitty thing to do and DO it!"

    March 15, 2010


    I love D.C. and found these pretty valid...

    1. Life has a purpose. Because of a recent best-seller, the word "purpose" has acquired Christian overtones. That is by no means necessary. Every life needs a meaning, and the more inspiring that meaning, the better. What erodes happiness more than anything else is the loneliness and emptiness that results when you feel that your life has no meaning. Millions of people live by the slogan, "Family is everything," but it's not. Meaning and purpose are everything.

    What kind of meaning should you seek? Here are the standard choices. Consider them as they apply to you.

    Work

    Family

    Love

    Service

    Giving

    Personal growth

    Hobbies, recreation

    Education, study

    Creativity

    Friendship

    Most people select a few of these, primarily family, friends, hobbies and work, which they hope will be enough. But what about the higher values, which will bring far more lasting, secure happiness? Among these I'd select love, giving, service and personal growth. If you leave these out, your happiness can be snatched away by losing your job or your friends. You run the risk of becoming an empty nester as your family grows up and moves away. Establish a higher purpose early in your life—preferably starting today—and your future won't be so vulnerable to change.

    2. Inner happiness. We hear this phrase a lot, to the point that it becomes meaningless. All those models on TV look as if they gained inner happiness from a slim waist, the right makeup, good hair and being young. Real inner happiness is easy to measure, however. If you can sit by yourself, doing nothing to distract yourself, needing no one, and still feel happy, then you have achieved inner happiness. It is marked by feeling safe, knowing that you are enough, finding a core of peace and calm. I sometimes put all these factors into a single phrase: You are truly happy if being here is enough.

    3. Focus on relationships instead of consumerism . America is a consumer economy driven by insatiable appetites for whatever is bigger, better, newer and more expensive. You and I aren't going to change that fact, but we can see through the glossy promise that consumerism makes you happy. It doesn't. Nor do heaps of money. Studies show that after a person has achieved enough money to cover life's necessities, the returns begin to diminish. The very rich are not happier than the rest of us, nor are winners of lotteries. In both cases, a huge surplus of money tends to bring out psychological flaws such as anxiety, greed and a fear of not having enough.

    If you define yourself by what you own, trouble lies ahead, because you have left a hole where a self needs to be. It is far more important to have a secure, loving relationship that mirrors your true self. I know that this sounds much harder than buying a new computer or a faster car, because it is. But relationships can bring inner fullness; expensive things simply wear out.

    4. Stop being distracted. Distractions are nice for whiling away the time, but the more hours you spend bent over a video game or the Internet, the less time you have for things that matter. All of us know that having a full heart is important, but it requires time and attention. As children, we counted on our parents to be warm-hearted. Secure in that knowledge, we could play and be carefree. But when you grow up, no one can replace your own heart and its needs. By "heart," I mean emotional fulfillment, compassion, kindness, bonding—the whole emotional core of life. Distractions will never bring these things to you, and they are among the most necessary aspects of a happy life.

    5. The place beyond fear. Modern life is marked by instant communication and global outreach. These are good things, but they also make everyday life seem much more fearful. We live in a world where total strangers living far away can harm us. There is no place safe from fear—except inside. You can't do much to reduce the causes of external worry; bad people and bad things have always been with us. But you can take care of your own tendencies to be afraid, worried and anxious. There is a place of safety inside, and if you can find it, you will find the kind of happiness that bad people and bad things cannot shake.

    6. Peace instead of stress . We all know that life is stressful, but many people think of stress as an outside element such as bad traffic, pressure at work, kids who won't pay attention, etc. Actually, stress is a response. How you react to the outside world is far more important than any outside stressor.

    There is a stress-free zone inside you, a place of peace. When you find this inner core of the self and learn to know it, external stress will not make you its prey. I don't mean that you zone out and contemplate your navel, to use the old cliché about Buddhism (which was never navel-gazing to begin with). When you find your own peace, outside stressors will still exist, but you will have a far different response to them. You will know what to fix, what to put up with, what to walk away from. Those are very basic decisions if you want to maintain your own happiness.

    7. A happy body based on wellness . As part of the American way of life, people wait until they are sick before turning to fix-its, meaning drugs or surgery. We ignore wellness and prevention after decades of being told how valuable they are. Their value hasn't diminished. In fact, your body wants you to be happy and is constantly sending signals of either contentment or distress. By turning our backs on our bodies, we are depriving ourselves of a major ally in the campaign to find happiness.

    I don't mean that you should get a gym card and start jogging, although both are positive lifestyle changes. Your body doesn't need to be thin, fit and beautiful to make you happy. It needs to talk to you, and you need to listen. All the things you can do to find inner happiness require the body; the mind isn't living in a separate balloon. You will never stick with the best regime of diet, exercise, stress reduction and meditation until your body is comfortable with it.

    Wellness is a mind-body alliance. What I'm proposing is that you form such an alliance. Distractions take us away from our minds; consumption takes us away from our bodies. We have taken up these things because mind and body aren't at peace with each other. Yet mutual peace is their natural state. Once you know that, you can go beyond superficial images about what makes for a good body. A good body is one that makes you happy because it supports you in wholeness.

    In the end, wholeness is the keyword if you want the kind of happiness that can't be taken away. Having spent so much time trying to be happy the old way—and not truly succeeding—we should realize that there is a new way. It could change your life right now.

    February 04, 2010

    On a blogging streak today...just had to share too: I believe this sooo much, another Y.B. thought:

    "What we think about the people we help effects how well they do. When we secretly doubt a friend we’re advising, we limit them. It’s in our head the way they will behave.

    Today make sure you truly believe in someone’s success. It could be your kid, your employee, or your dry cleaner getting out a really tough stain. Big and small, our thoughts create reality."

    I truly hope you all have a fantastic & beautiful day. Laugh. Right now! Do it! Smile and notice the way your whole mood shifts. That's my hope for you today. LOVE.

    Humility is the quality of being humble: modest, not proud, self-abasing. Humility, in various interpretations, is widely seen as a virtue in many religious and philosophical traditions, being connected with notions of transcendent unity with the universe or the divine, and of egolessness. The term "humility" is derived from the Latin word humilitas, a noun related to the adjective humilis, translated not only as "humble", but also alternatively as "low", or "from the earth", and humus, "humid"; see English humus.

    I'd like to be known as coming from the earth...

    My dad always taught me that modesty and humility were two of the most important characteristics in life. I am so grateful that he did, because WOW was he right. It's so much easier to be gracious to people, to understand others opinions, to respect others choices, when we feel humble and open to humility.

    As Yehuda Berg puts it, "Humility is the foundation for all of our spiritual work.
    Be humble today. Allow others to have their opinions. Treat them as you wish to be treated."

    Just a little nugget. Of love. LOVE!

    January 07, 2010


    Thanks to my beautiful sister for a fabuuulous reminder of the important things this year...

    Health:
    1. Drink plenty of water.
    2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
    3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
    4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
    5. Make time to pray.
    6. Play more games
    7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
    8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
    9. Sleep for 7 hours.
    10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

    Personality:
    11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
    13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
    14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
    15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
    16. Dream more while you are awake
    17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
    18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
    19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
    20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
    21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
    22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
    23. Smile and laugh more.
    24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...

    Society:
    25. Call your family often.
    26. Each day give something good to others.
    27. Forgive everyone for everything..
    28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
    29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
    30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
    31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

    Life:
    32. Do the right thing!
    33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
    34. GOD heals everything.
    35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change..
    36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
    37. The best is yet to come..
    38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
    39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

    December 01, 2009

    Also I just wanted to add a note that it was an inspirational weekend, as most tend to be when you're having a blast at events like the Grey Cup; however, this was also because I visited some very important people in my life and got to spend some time really talking about my future and what I want to accomplish and I feel that the love & support will be there no matter what comes in the next few years...but I just wanted to say thank you to you guys out there in Calgary. I love you and can't wait to see what the future brings for all of us, I've never felt more focused than I do today!

    And to my Riders. Ohhhhh boy. All I can say is you've given me a million reasons to cheer, laugh, hug, hope and all I can do now is just give unconditional love...unconditional...love.

    LOVE.

    February 23, 2009

    I found this graduation address by using my favourite site StumbleUpon and was wowed by the messages we can learn from Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios.

    Stanford Report, June 14, 2005
    'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says
    This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

    I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

    The first story is about connecting the dots.

    I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

    It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

    And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

    It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

    Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

    None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

    Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

    My second story is about love and loss.

    I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

    I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

    I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

    During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

    I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

    My third story is about death.

    When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

    Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

    About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

    I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

    This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

    No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

    Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

    When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

    Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

    Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.
    Just so we're clear, these notes are being imported from my blog: http://hopefulafrica.blogspot.com. I post all things inspiring here, as well as trip news & updates. When I leave, it'll be important to me that when I update my blog, it will update facebook & emails so that I can stay in touch with everyone on the trip.

    So, here are some of my favouite book quotes that are posted, where else, Oprah.com:

    On the importance of being true to yourself:
    "Do not let yourself be bothered with the inconsequential. One only has so much time in this world, so devote it to the work and the people most important to you, to those you love and things that matter. One can waste half a lifetime with people one doesn't really like or doing things when one would be better off somewhere else." — Louis L'amour, Ride the River

    On the importance of books:
    "So Matilda's strong young mind continued to grow, nurtured by the voices of all those authors who had sent their books out into the world like ships on the sea. These books gave Matilda a hopeful and comforting message: You are not alone." — Roald Dahl, Matilda

    On our differences:
    "Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest of human beings infinite distances continue to exist, a wonderful living side by side can grow up, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky." — Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

    And then these I just looove:

    "There are years that ask questions and years that answer." — Zora Neale Hurston, Their Eyes Were Watching God

    "The treasures of the earth were movement, courage, laughter and love."
    — Mark Helprin, Winter's Tale

    "But lifting a person's heart — now that matters. The whole problem with people is...they know what matters, but they don't choose it. The hardest thing on earth is choosing what matters." — Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees

    "If anything matters then everything matters. Because you are important, everything you do is important. Every time you forgive, the universe changes; every time you reach out and touch a heart or a life, the world changes; with every kindness and service, seen or unseen, my purposes are accomplished and nothing will ever be the same again." — William P. Young, The Shack

    "Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists."
    — Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth

    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" — Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love
    Life is hard. Isn't that what they always say? It's been a bit of a whirlwind for me lately, centered a lot around the people and things I love. I've learned a lot of lessons in the past couple of weeks, about who to trust and how to proceed in relationships with integrity. I've learned that I am NOT invincible like I possibly thought I was...right Aerin! I learned that the people you need most will always be there when you need them. I feel rejuvenated, inspired, and full of hope that love exists in so many ways in this world and we will keep receiving the experiences that we need to, in order to one day be where we truly need to be. Once you accept that, things like this trip become so much more important and forgiveness to others becomes so much easier!

    Regardless of what happens, even when it really, really sucks, I do know that you can never lose faith in people. You always have to forgive, and keep proceeding with love. It's hard to do, but when you do, your heart feels different and life becomes richer and easier. I also know after something hard happens, you have to forget for awhile, but it doesn't mean that you won't have those memories later when it's easier.

    So, in light of all that, it's really important that we try to learn from all of our experiences. The Universe will continue sending you the same challenges until we've learned our lessons. We have to understand that discomfort is the universe helping us learn these lessons, and all we need to take from it is to accept that it's about our growth, not the other person or situation.

    Deep thoughts on a Monday morning...happy growing!

    February 18, 2009

    Thanks for finding this for me my Stacie lady love:

    Letting Go
    Author Unknown

    To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;
    It means I can't do it for someone else.

    To let go is not to cut myself off...
    It's the realization that I can't control another...

    To let go is not to enable,
    but to allow learning from natural consequences.

    To let go is to admit powerlessness,
    which means the outcome is not in my hands.

    To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
    I can only change myself.

    To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

    To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

    To let go is not to judge,
    but to allow another to be a human being.

    To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
    but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.

    To let go is not to be protective,
    It is to permit another to face reality.

    To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

    To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
    but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

    To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
    but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.

    To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
    but to try to become what I dream I can be.

    To let go is not to regret the past,
    but to grow and live for the future.

    To let go is to fear less and love more.
    I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides,
    I honor the place in you of love, of light, of truth, of peace.
    I honor the place within you where if you are in that place in you and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.

    February 17, 2009

    Just listening to Neil's song HELPLESS...probably one of my favourite in the world. And it makes me think YES!

    We are helpless. We can't save the world. We can't save the people we love. We can't control what others think or do.

    But, my friends, we can make people smile. And we can affect how people feel, in the best of ways. So that's where I come in. Trying to keep the smiles on the people I love. You know who you are.

    Trying today to practice the Law of Detachment: Allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they are. Do not force solutions - allow solutions to spontaneously emerge. Uncertainity is essential and your path to freedom.
    I read this on a blog the other day and it moved me enough to post it here!

    Human-beings are not perfect.

    However pursuing of perfection, which actually comes from our basic instinct, is a part of our life. Which means that we're all willing to try to reach something in our life, and I do know that whatever it is, if you have enough motivation, you will make certain that it's gonna happen. But, somehow our life isn't that simple. Sometimes we go through tough times, sometime we fall and get hurt. Sometimes we make mistakes and by that.. sometimes we become devastated. WE, as human-beings, will never be perfect, as long as we take a breath to live in our life. BUT, to tell you the truth, making a mistake, being hurt, having emotion etc.. those are the parts of our life. And these are given to us as a present, as a gift. This is everything that represents us as human-being. That makes us something special, THAT'S WHY, we're special!

    February 03, 2009

    A very smart friend of mine brought these core four ways to live up to me recently and I fell in love. Enjoy!

    Be impeccable with your word: Use your voice to encourage love and truth. Speak only the truth. Don't gossip or bad mouth people and always speak with integrity.

    Always do your best: Give 100 percent all the time.This will help you avoid regret. Your best does vary - you are not a robot or a machine, therefore, be kind to yourself as "your best" will vary with your energy levels. This also builds respect through others' eyes.

    Don't take anything personal: This is a very tough one because we all have big egos. When you are immune to others' opinions/actions you will avoid being the victim of needless suffering. Their criticisms are reflections of their own issues and insecurities.

    Don't Make Assumptions: Communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings and heartaches. Expect honesty and you should get it in return. Obviously this is not always the way, because others are not practicing the same rules; however their selfish and dishonest behavior is on them.

    Simple, but oh so true.